Every breakup is difficult. You worked so hard, and everything still fell apart. If you’re wondering how to get your ex boyfriend back, here are a few things that you should definitely not do. Through all of this, remember to trust your instincts. If something feels weird, it probably is.
1. Don’t take everything he dishes out
It will be tempting to ignore bad behavior because you desperately want to get back together. All that does is let him know that you won’t really leave him. He can do whatever he wants and you’ll always be there.
If he can get everything he wants from you, what incentive does he have to really work at the relationship? You deserve better. Stand up for yourself. You are equal partners in this and you both should be heard.
2. Don’t give him tons of affection
It will make you look desperate and needy. It’s a given that you love him. If you are over-affectionate, he will think you’re trying to force him into getting back together.
3. Don’t beg
All it does is give him power over you and make you seem pathetic. You don’t want him to pity you. All begging will do is make him think he made the right decision in leaving you.
4. Don’t get jealous if he dates someone else
Of course you’re going to be jealous if he finds someone soon after your breakup. Just don’t let him know that. Try not to let a rebound get under your skin. Acting jealous won’t make him want to get back together. It will just reinforce his want to be away from you.
Remember, all a rebound does is remind him of all the things he misses about you. Stay positive and trust in yourself.
5. Don’t call or text
Don’t contact him for 4 weeks after the breakup. Otherwise you seem desperate, and it will only push him away. Your instincts will tell you to scream or cry at him. That is the worst thing you can do. It’ll make him think separating was a good idea. Allow yourself the space to settle your nerves.
In a month’s time, you should be level-headed enough to initiate contact. He will have been wondering what you’ve been up to.